Adriana & Company, Adriana Rosales

I giggled this morning when I read this piece in the Harvard Business Review. (link below) One, because I’m a woman and two because this is not common knowledge. When I read through the article, I said finally, some statistics on “the truth”.

Before you stop reading and call me a hard-core feminist let me just clarify, I’d rather work for a man any day. Why? Well, I learned how to get to the top of the food chain in the corporate world because men showed me how. I got paid better than most women because men showed me how. I was able to sit at the table with the big boys as a woman because men showed me how.

Now, this is not today I wouldn’t reconsider wanting to work for a woman in another life, it just simply means that I was able to compartmentalize my life when I did things the way men do things in the business world. Men keep their emotions tucked away and hidden from view. Women, well, we don’t. Lol.

Now, It’s quite simple. While working in the corporate world I excelled at almost everything because my focus was on making money winning and getting ahead. My personal life was a disaster and my health suffered. I was single most of my life because of my inability to let work be work and life be life.

What I’ve learned since is that the business world is changing and its landscape is reshaping its self into a more compassionate place. Women are already equipped to face off with new challenges. We are naturally able to connect without having to compartmentalize for the sake of survival. Men are programmed to be hunter-gatherers therefore as the landscape inside the corporate walls continues to evolve, the less competition and more cooperation will be required.

How can men catch up with the women? Well for one, men can begin to embrace the idea that being male does not require the to fully emerge in the male energy all the time. There are ways men can improve and shift paradigms by simple being aware a shift must be made.

Why? Not because women are better but simply because it is the new evolution of business and without this awareness and a new shift in the way we do business, men will be left behind.

The last time I had the opportunity to be on stage to talk to a group of women about the new Heart-Centered way of doing business I remember I was told my message was too soft.

I just giggled and said, “ah that was me 10 years ago” when I had not learned the value of my feminine side and the leverage one can have with authentic compassion, trust, courage, and service. Now I coach men and women how to regain that wonderful balance of both strong attributes of great leadership.

For more information on my work with HeartMath® and HeartCentered™ Approach to business visit our web page at www.Adriana.Company

Adriana Rosales, CEO Adriana & Company™, Forbes Coaches Council

Author of Corporate Code, Certified Speaker John Maxwell and HeartMath® Coach


The GAP exists because of one’s inability to understand our personal filters and perceptions of our current life expectations. In essence, the GAP is but an illusion.

When I worked in corporate America, I found myself in this trap over and over again. Watching how some of my colleagues were promoted without justification (in my opinion) or how my boss worked 4 hours a day and I worked 12. How I made less than men and worked twice as hard and on and on and on.

At this time in my life, I felt justified in this perception. I would ask all the wrong questions like, why does he make more than me? Moreover, how come I work harder and still won’t be considered for a promotion? How can I still be with this company? They treat me horribly.

I arrived at my “Aha” moment after reading several books on the subject. One book entitled “How to work for a Jerk” and many of this similar topic. Yes, I know, I bought the book and turned out I was the Jerk not my boss according to the writer.

My perceptions during this time in my life were as follows:

1. If you work hard, you make a lot of money

2. If you work long hours and have no social life, you will get a promotion

3. If you help your boss to get ahead, he will eventually help you as well

I would venture out to say that most employees see through this lens at some point in their careers.

I for one, learned my lesson long ago when I discovered the opposite of these three things are true.

This GAP I talk about is not a physical gap or a financial one or even a communication GAP; it is a gap in one’s individual understanding of what your personal filters are. It is how you perceive the world around you.

The filters I was wearing to see the world and my career were such that I had set myself up for failure at every level.

The lens in which I saw the world was tainted. The successful people I knew, saw the world differently. They understood that:

1. Life is easy, and money flows to you effortlessly, all the time and always

2. Smart people work less because they work smart not hard

3. If you help yourself and evolve from expecting others to help you, life can be amazing.

4. We live in an abundant world

When I came to realize these truths about the “GAP,” it was so powerful that all it took was a shift in mindset and before you knew it, I was living and doing the life I have always admired others living.

The “GAP” in introspect is an internal “GAP” within you. No one can teach you how to make more money or how to have others treat you fairly. No one can show you the path to these truths on how life works because it exists in you already.

You can become aware of these truths by your’ own internal compass. Perhaps you are nudged to read a particular book or hear an expression or read a blog that stirs up your internal dialog to see the world differently. Your mindset suddenly shifts. You arrive at your “Aha” moment and out of nowhere and nothing you dissolve this perceived “GAP” between you and your boss.